This is a guest post by Melissa Heisler. She is a Stress Reduction Expert. She is also the host of the Empowerment Show weekly podcast. You can find and follow her on her It's My Life, Inc. website or at @ItsMyLifeInc on Twitter.
Perhaps you wake up one morning and begin questioning your current career, company, or position. Perhaps you are laid off and begin to realize this is an opportunity to become much more. Either way change can be scary. Change is also a time for growth and an opportunity to uncover and accept our true purpose.
Whether through choice or force, the grief of losing what was can be debilitating. Over the last few years, I have been speaking to groups of job seekers. Many of them feel trapped and victimized. They hold on tightly to what was – their old company, their old role, the old economy. This also happens to those still employed but who begin to see that what they loved about their position no longer holds true. Holding on to what no longer is can be debilitating. Freedom and amazing opportunities await one once the past is released.
Define What You Want
The first step to start defining what it is you want. This step can be very difficult for those who are unemployed. The desire is to find a job, any job, and begin earning money again. The truth is trying to force yourself into job postings does not work. Hiring managers know you are not right for the position and if you do land the job you will find yourself unhappy in a matter of time. By first defining what you want, you can then be much more focused in your job search and can be assured of a more joyful new position.
Whether you are looking for a new job or exploring business ownership, start with open-minded exploration. Give yourself some time to uncover your truth and explore the world of opportunities. Keep from immediately trying to cram yourself into an idea or opportunity. This is a time to explore, feel, and create. Start with a list of your skills. Begin with your resume and previous job responsibilities. Add in skills outside of the workforce. Are you a wiz at closet organizing or hosting dinner parties? What skills are involved there? If you are having time coming up with a comprehensive list, ask some friends what they would come to you for assistance. Often we overlook our best talents because we assume everyone can do them.
List Your Passions
Next, make a list of your passions. What do you love doing? What gets you out of the bed in the morning? What are your interests and hobbies? What are the things you say yes to without thinking? Don’t think in terms of a job here. Just list the things you love. Remember we are exploring here. For me some passions are Shakespeare, boating, travel, metaphors, and self-exploration. Be an archeologist and uncover those things that make your soul sing.
List Your Values
Finally, make a list of your values. What is important to you? Social rights, spirituality, the environment? Also what are what I call your Experiential Values? What do you want to experience? Calm, peace, creativity, excitement, challenges, adventure? If you could experience anything on a daily basis, what would you choose?
Your ideal job or business is at the intersection of your skills, passions, and values. The importance of this is twofold. First if it allows you to find a new position that not only maximizes your skills, but also feeds your heart through your passions and values. This process helps you find the company culture which matches your personality. It keeps you from taking a position which does not match the true you. Second this process may uncover a new career or business which you would not have otherwise considered, or that does not exist yet. Embrace change as your chance to create your ideal career and life. Letting go of the old allows you to uncover what you are meant to do.
Question: What helps you overcome self-questioning?