As women, we are taught consciously or unconsciously to be quiet. Some of our lessons like how to listen and why not to speak hurtful words are very positive, but they also play into the culture of quiet. Other lessons are learned when we are around domineering or aggressive individuals who teach us that voicing our truth is neither wanted nor well-received.
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Learning to speak one’s mind is more than a skill. Speaking one’s mind means you are stepping into your power. When we have no voice, we have no choice. When we have no voice, we are a victim. When we have no voice, we are not truly embracing and living our life fully. As you learn to use your voice and speak your mind, you begin engaging in life without restraint. Using your voice empowers you to be you.
Know Your Mind
The first step toward speaking your mind is to know your mind. Take the time to know your views, your thoughts, your beliefs, and your desires. Stop reacting to what others have said and search in your own heart for your truth. Stop worrying what others’ reactions might be, therefore, tempering what you will say and stay in alignment with what you believe. Learn to hear the still quiet voice within.
Give Your Thoughts Importance
The next step is to give your thoughts weight and importance. Shake off all doubts and limiting beliefs which diminish your view. Know that it does not matter how “right” or educated you are on the subject, your belief is just as important as anyone else’s. To give you the strength to voice your views it is important for you to completely embrace them yourself. As you begin to trust and honor your thoughts, so will others.
Speak in the Moment
The last step is to speak in the moment. Don’t hold yourself back. Often we keep quiet too long and then when we cannot hold back any longer, our words come out as venom and daggers. When you give your thoughts weight and importance, they no longer come out as attacks. When we grant ourselves a place in the world, we no longer think we need to fight for our voice and then our words flow out confidently as truth.
Speaking your mind comes from within. Speaking your mind comes from knowing your truth. Speaking your mind comes from giving yourself permission to exist. Speaking your mind comes from the confidence of your worth. Moreover, the reverse is true as well. As you have the courage to speak your truth, your self-knowledge, self-respect, and self-confidence increases. Start sharing your words. You and the world will benefit from your courage.
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